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Participating in a support group can offer unique benefits: the chance to connect with people facing challenges similar to your own, and an opportunity to learn other people’s strategies for managing those challenges

Finding the right fit can make all the difference. Before deciding on a group, attend a few meetings; one visit isn’t usually enough for an accurate assessment. Once you find a group you like, become a regular attendee. Participate by talking and asking questions. If you’re not entirely comfortable opening up to a group, be mentally present—listening to others.

Go into a group with a positive attitude. Remember that you’re going there for support, and keep an open mind. The best support groups promote active self-care and won’t focus solely on the negatives.

Before you go, brush up on a little support-group etiquette:

• DO open up and share stories about yourself, including challenges you’re facing or successes you’ve enjoyed.
• DON’T monopolize the conversation.
• DO offer support to others in the group.
• DON’T judge what others say, or share their information with people outside the group.
• DO ask questions, however minor they might seem. Chances are, you’re not the only one with those issues.
• DON’T focus only on the negatives. Discussing solutions or coping strategies can help you stay positive.